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INFJ/INFP

extraversion (E), sensing (S), thinking (T), judgment (J)

introversion (I), intuition (N), feeling (F), perception (P)

INFJ的特点

内向+直觉+情感+判断

独立的、有独创性的思想家 灵性特质的作家型

寻求思想、关系、物质等之间的意义和联系。希望了解什么能够激励人,对人有很强的洞察力。有责任心,坚持自己的价值观。对于怎样更好的服务大众有清晰的远景。在对于目标的实现过程中有计划而且果断坚定。

infj型的人生活在思想的世界。他们是独立的、有独创性的思想家,具有强烈的感情、坚定的原则和正直的人性。

即使面对怀疑,infj型的人仍相信自己的看法与决定。他们的评价高于其他的一切,包括流行的观点和存在的权威,这种内在的观念激发着他们的积极性。通常infj型的人具有本能的洞察力,能够看到事物更深层的含义。即使他人无法分享他们的热情,但灵感对于他们重要而令人信服。

infj型的人忠诚、坚定、富有理想化。他们珍视正直,十分坚定以至达到倔强的地步。因为他们的说服能力,以及对于什么对公共利益最有利有清楚的看法,所以infj型的人会成为伟大的领导者。由于他们的贡献,他们通常会受到尊重或尊敬。

因为珍视友好和和睦,infj型的人喜欢说服别人,使之相信他们的观点是正确的。通过运用嘉许和赞扬,而不是争吵和威胁,他们赢得了他人的合作。他们愿意毫无保留地激励同伴,避免争吵。

通常infj型的人是深思熟虑的决策者,他们觉得问题使人兴奋,在行动之前他们通常要仔细地考虑。他们喜欢每次全神贯注于一件事情,这会造成一段时期的专心致志。

满怀热情与同情心,infj型的人强烈地渴望为他人的幸福做贡献。他们注意其他人的情感和利益,能够很好地处理复杂的人。infj型的人本身具有深厚复杂的性格.既敏感又热切。他们内向,很难被人—了解,但是愿意同自己信任的人分享内在的自我。他们往往有一个交往深厚、持久的小规模的朋友圈,在合适的氛围中能产生充分的个人热情和激情。
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他们内向,直觉,情感型的性格使他们能够像雷达一样充当一种预警系统。但不幸的是,这种能力在他们强烈的害怕冲突的心态面前变得无所作为。于是,最终他们变得软弱了。他们总是在内省中抚平冲突带来的创伤,并希望这些创伤能赶紧消失

INFJ是16种类型中最为罕见的类别,只占人口的1%左右。

INFJ有着异常丰富的内涵,但矜持、不愿意与除他们所信赖的人之外的其他人分享自己的真实感觉,所以显得十分神秘,而难以被人理解。

INFJ 以其人格与才华的深度兼广度而著称。强烈的人道关怀倾向,导致其十足的理想性,但因「J」(决者)因子的作祟,同时希望做事能有始有终,结果就是「理想的实践者」。他们是地球上较为严肃的居民,想着严肃的事。不为名利所驱,只为自己所相信的事情奋斗,所以常会为了理想而担上不成比例的责任。

INFJ 很看重「人」,从周遭的缘分至全体人类福祉皆是。 「Fe」(外向感性)所展现对「人」的极度兴趣——甚至可以浓厚到容易被人误认是外向型人格。 但那都是幻觉,INFJ 是货真价值的内向型人格,只能自在于少数深交的关系当中。虽然人格的本能趋使他们参与世俗的事务,但在某些时点上,他们会突然退场,退居自我,完全闭关,切断与世俗的一切连系。

这种看似矛盾的现象会是外人最为大惑不解的现象,对这罕见类型没经验的人更是会满头问号。 这是种自我保护机制,对这位“布施者”而言,他以这种形式充电,达成休养生息的效果,在情绪负荷超载之时,静养调适。

INFJ 这种进出世俗,主观、客观不时对换的习性,再加上自身被「Ni」(内向直觉)极度强化的「Fe」(外向感性),使他们拥有极可能是16型中对人性最清晰的见解,深刻了解人的动机,为是为非皆然。

强烈的感受性是INFJ 「双面刃」特质的典型代表,它可以揭露深度的人格情报,但在极度负面的情形下也会产生强烈的痛苦与不适。 其他人格冲突,好比「NF」的理想性与「J」的务实相互冲突,理想性说:「一个都不能少」,务实方回说:「牺牲少数成就大义」。 「I」(内向)与「J」(决者)的配对虽然对自我开发很有用,但却会对INFJ 的情感表达设下严重的障碍。

INFJ 文笔通常很好,也较擅长纸笔沟通。因为他们深具个人魅力,所以适合投身各种「启发性」职业,如教育(尤其是高等教育)或是宗教,心理学或是各种顾问类也都是明显可行的选择,但INFJ 的职业倾向其实是很难抓的。 之所以难,可从理工领域举例。 INFJ一般都自认对纯粹的逻辑不在行,所以会偏向选择文科与自由艺,走理工的人少。但那些少数走理工的表现并不会比他们「T」(理性)同事差,这现象是归功于INFJ 的「I」(直觉)属性,令他们可以掌握抽象理论并且灵活运用。

就某方面, INFJ 也如同INTJ 般是「系统建构者」,只是他们的系统是以人身价值核心,而非INTJ 般是以资讯或科技作为主轴。 INFJ 的「系统」相对「NT」的严谨类型——会比较「模糊」,难以数据量化,所以容易被人所轻易忽视——但也是因为以人为本,所以他们对社会的贡献格外珍贵。

技术分析:

主导属性:内向直觉(Ni Introverted iNtuition)

做为内向直觉者,INFJ 对内在抽象运作的了解仅次于他们的INTJ 表亲。相对于「SP」类对现实细节之敏感, INFJ 能轻易掌握各种事物背后所蕴含的抽象运作关系。能精确推论他人思绪、情感与动机的特异能力使他们有先知与预言家之类的各种名堂上身。 「Ni」(内向直觉)相对运作较规矩的「Si」(内向感官),也较能弹性应付各种突发状况。

副属性:外向感性(Fe Extraverted Feeling)

Fe(外向感向)在此负责的判断,并且输出对于人、事、物的各种结论。 INFJ ,如其它「FJ」般,会发现自己夹在「想报告一切的冲动」与「少说少错的谨慎」之间。 INFJ 有时会在少数人之间分享这些东西,但INFJ 通常都很小心,他们深知人心之险恶,所以朋友都是经过刻意筛选的。 「Ni」(内向直觉)与「Fe」(外向感性)的组合,造就INFJ 作为心理师的雄厚本钱。

三属性:内向理性(Ti Introverted Thinking)

INFJ 的理性是内向,朝内自省的。 INFJ 在理性思考时,看起来会有如当机一般神游去,在一旁的同伴可能会误以为INFJ 认为他很无聊,以为这位冷眼剖析人性的专家认为他不值得再瞧上一眼。 但据经验显示,这种看似神游的状态是INFJ 在努力维持这项自己不太擅长的功能。

劣属性:外向感官(Se Extraverted Sensing )

INFJ 有着外视与内省的双重天赋。 对内有掌握抽象意义的直觉,但外则有接收世间讯息的「Se」(外向感官)。但「Se」(外向感官)却是INFJ 最弱的能力。

不是说没有感官能力,而是不知道怎么用。他们可能会因为对直觉的依赖而忽略感官情报,又或朝另一个极端走,过度着重各种感官细节使自己盲目。 正是因为如此,所以状况差的INFJ 可能变得纵欲,过分追求感官刺激。 「Se」(外向感官)可能是INFJ 不时欲模仿「SP」活在当下之生活态度的原因。 渴望活在当下,乐于现实之中是不少INFJ 心中的愿望。所以INFJ 演员通常很爱饰演「SP」类(尤其是ESTP)的角色,是一种有趣的现象。

INFJ的长相:眼神亮、眉清目秀,一般以椭圆型脸居多,鼻直且长,但不一定很高。

INFJ的着装:偏向保守,但较为时尚。

INFJ最不为人所知的特点:理想主义兼完美主义者,害怕受伤,因此很少人真正了解他们。

INFJ的优点:想象力丰富,比较独立,待人真诚,善于激励人容易洞察到事物更深层面的东西。

INFJ的缺点:固执,很难被人说服,对自己和别人往往有不切实际的期望,容易过分敏感。

INFJ的压力源(指在下列情况下会产生压力):被要求违背个人原则,或需要容忍不诚实时。

INFJ面对压力时的反应:对人变得较苛刻,吹毛求疵,痴迷于购物、看电视、搞卫生、运动等活动。

  • 凭自己的直觉理解身边的人和事物
  • 理想主义
  • 高度原则性
  • 复杂而深沉
  • 天生的领导者
  • 敏感且对他人富有同情心
  • 以服务他人为导向
  • 着眼未来
  • 重视深刻、真实的关系
  • 在表达中总是对自己的真实感受有所保留
  • 不喜欢处理细节,除非当他们的洞察力有所提高时
  • 不断寻求一切事物的意义和目的
  • 有创造力,有远见
  • 感情丰富并容易投入
  • 能逻辑且理性地工作——运用直觉理解目标并向目标努力

INFJ是特殊的个体,与工作相比他们更需要整个职业生涯。他们需要觉得他们生活中所做的一切都与他们强大的价值体系一致-与他们所认为的正确一致。因此,INFJ应该选择一份职业,这份职业能让他们按他们牢固的原则生活,并且支持他们,让他们在生活中探求做有意义的事。因为INFJ们具有这么强大的价值体系,而且坚持直觉,这种直觉给他们一种“就是知道”的感觉,他们作为领导者的岗位上做得最好,而不是在跟随者的岗位上。但他们也能愉快地追随别人,那种往INFJ完全支持的方向上领导的人。而其他任何情况下,作为追随者他们都会感到不快。

下面是我们基于INFJ的性格特点所列出的特别适合他们的职业。这个列表只是要给你一个概念和参考,而不是最终的限定。我们无法保证这里的(全部或任一)职业一定会适合你,最适合您的职业也不一定在我们罗列的范围之内。

INFJ 型人发展的最充分的人格类型元素是直觉,这使得他们极具想象力和创造力,他们将这两项才能用来为他人服务,并在此过程中获得满足。他们善于倾听,愿意为别人提供帮助。他们理解力强,又非常富有同情心,所以他们总能帮助别人想出实现愿望的好办法,而且一般情况下,INFJ型人也愿意提供他人所需要的支持和帮助。
性情和善,言语温和,是INFJ型人的典型特点。通常情况下,他们不喜欢引起他人对自己的注意,愿意悄悄的在幕后工作。体贴,富有同情心,敏感,性格当中的这些特质,使得INFJ型人常常会在维系人际关系的和谐方面做出过度的努力。但同时,他们也非常的有主见,为了实现自己的梦想,愿意忍受外界对于他们的怀疑和批评。INFJ型人的梦想根植于他们强烈的价值观念。INFJ型人是那样的诚实而有热心,他们那种发自内心的真实,总是能立刻赢得人们的信赖和尊敬。正是由于这个原因,INFJ型人通常很容易成为精神上的领袖。
INFJ型人发展的最不充分的人格类型元素是感知,所以他们很少会考虑那些会阻碍自己梦想成真的现实因素。由于他们将注意力全都集中在了事物的全貌上,所以有时会遗漏重要的细节,有时他们甚至会有意忽略那些与自己想法不符的关键因素。他们太过相信自己想法的正确性,以至于会对不同的看法采取批判性的眼光,甚至是加以轻视。
INFJ型人的注意力过于专注,所以一旦他们开始了一项工作,就很难改变计划,在这方面,他们显得缺乏弹性,他们的这种情况就有些像一个人驾车行驶在高速公路上,不停的走啊走,不幸的是,结果却走错了方向!INFJ型人的完美主义个性还可能导致这样一个后果,那就是顽固和缺乏韧性。INFJ型人时常会发现,和那些他们信任的人分享自己的一些想法,可以帮助他们看到自己的缺点,获得一种更客观的角度。
INFJ型人很有决断,是颇有能力的组织者,是优秀的计划制定者。由于他们用心专一,矢志不移,所以通常情况下,他们非常具有创造力。INFJ型人喜欢为自己确定目标,然后不知疲倦的工作,去实现自己的目标。但是有些时候,由于INFJ型人太急于做出论断,他们常常会忽略体验过程。同时由于他们的心思全在实现自己的目标上,所以有时无法对发生的情况做出本能的反应。
因为INFJ型的人行为动力源自于他们的价值观和深植于体内的信念,所以他们看待事情非常个人化,别人无意的言行可能会对他们造成伤害。不幸的是,他们又太过敏感,所以会对那些伤害自己的人或想法产生抵触情绪,或者干脆和那些人一刀两断。INFJ型人需要来自于不过分苛求他们的朋友的温和的提醒,那就是他们不应该忽略人生中那些明亮的色彩,那些美妙快乐的时刻。

内向的人从心理学角度来描述是倾向关注自己内心的想法和感受,对外在的环境和他人不太关注,内心是敏感的,细腻的。一般来说,内向的人有以下特征:在人际交往上是腼腆的害羞的;喜欢独处,不太喜欢参与群体活动;比较习惯于沉浸在个人的精神世界里,喜欢思考,但也容易敏感多疑;在做事和人际交往上,一般会比较被动、固执拘谨等。

很多人会觉得内向是不好的,内向的人不接受自己的内向,把它与不善交际、固执等联系起来。实际上,内向的人有很多优点,如虽然他们社交能力不强,但他们往往对人很真诚,值得信任;虽然朋友不多,但知心朋友却不少;他们思考能力很强,考虑问题周到全面;他们对问题的理解能力往往比外向的人更独到、深刻,想象力也更丰富。艺生咨询认为,内向的人如果能发掘自己的潜力,选择适合自己的职业,那也同样能获得成功。

内向型人适合的职业:
无论是外向的人,还是内向的人在职业选择上都应该能扬长避短,发挥自己个性的长处,发扬自己的潜力。一般来说内向的人,在生活和职业上都倾向独立性,独立性工作的职业会让他们感到更符合他们的习惯,因此他们在工作独立性强的职业上往往能得心应手;另外,选择与物打交道的职业,由于内向的人在交际和沟通方面一般会比外向的人弱一些,在交际上会比较被动,不够开放。因此,工作对象是以物、数据、设备等方面会更好些。

内向型的人在技术相关领域或后勤操作方面的工作是比较合适的,如电子机械建筑等技术、设计、工程类,软件开发设计和测试类,质量检验和品质管理类,会计和财务方面,物流操作和仓储管理,文字编辑和写作,艺术设计,市场研究,医生等专业性工作等等。不过在选择具体的职业时候,还需要更全面的考虑自己现有的能力、兴趣、认可的价值观等方面。如一个内向的人,想法很多,创新能力很强,具有美感,本人对设计艺术感兴趣,在考虑专业的情况下,可以选择设计方面的工作。

上述是艺生咨询中心针对统计数据对内向型人适合的职业的描述,个人的职业选择还需要结合自己的专业、兴趣、能力、内心的想法等方面,通过对自己全面的认识和了解,结合对就业形势的了解来决定。

对于内向职场人最不擅长的职场人际交往,张总经理认为想要玩转职场,保持自我,更要克服一些性格弱点,“内向的人一般特别敏感,情绪容易被周围人所感染,所以建议这样的职场人,凡事想开些,踏实地做好手头事。内向的人更喜欢去倾听,这在职场人际交往中无疑是个优势,能够倾听别人的想法、别人的意见,对他人的成绩和优点及时给予肯定和赞扬,跟同事或上司交谈的时候,多运用好的、没问题、就按你说的办等肯定性的词语,那么慢慢你就会变成职场中越来越受欢迎的人。”

INFJ 女性都会因为她们的聪明和智慧而受到尊敬并在工作中被看作温柔,和善,关 心他人的人. 在我们的社会中, 具有同样 INFJ 特点的男性面临的问题会多一些. INFJ 男性面临的是不同的环境: 他们天生的关心和温柔是对职场中其他人的一种困扰,尤其是其他男性.INFJ 型男性的同事,领导, 下属通常会产生疑问,诸如:这人是男人吗?是个懦夫?权威?还是个怪人?

INFJ 男性很清楚这种矛 盾.他清楚自己和社会的传统要求有所不同,并且会在社会的压力之下力求变得更加强硬和男子气.但 这会使他的内心充满矛盾,障碍和困惑. 所有 INFJ 型的人与其他类型的人比起来,都更容易遭受胃,结肠等方面病痛的困扰.这可以看作 是他们在天生的偏好和公众对他们的性别期望之间无法进行调和时对自己的一种惩罚

INFJ 在面临冲突时通常选择沉默寡言,而一般他们都能够先于其他人预见到冲突何时爆发. 他们内向,直觉,情感型的性格使他们能够像雷达一样充当一种预警系统.但不幸的是,这种能力在他 们强烈的害怕冲突的心态面前变得无所作为.于是,最终他们变得软弱了.他们总是在内省中持平冲突 带来的创伤,并希望这些创伤能赶紧消失. INFJ 喜欢在工作中保持整洁有序,喜欢平和,安静的气氛,希望工作中每个人的贡献都能得到肯 定,每个人都有成就感,所有的工作都能和谐地取得良好的结果.这种品质在教师职业中最受重视,

INFJ 对人际之间不能很好地合作,信任和肯定持疑问态度,这是毫不奇怪的.INFJ 相信在加强沟 通后,战争是不会发生的.INFJ 是”让世界充满和平,让和平从我做起”这句话的实践者.

当别人不 打算支持 INFJ 的想法或不愿意参加进来时,他们内心丰富的想象力会很快地变成一种失落感.鼓舞人 心的士气会在这时候螺旋下降,跌入自责和失败感的深渊.这时负疚感主宰一切,沮丧环绕四周.在这 种情况下,INFJ 倾向于逃避现实,并陷入一种失望的情绪中,他心里会说: “所有人都毫不在乎,我先 前东想西想是多么愚蠢啊. ” INFJ 的另一个缺点是容易过度以情感为中心,近乎歇斯底里,尽管有些事可能和他们并不相关. 一旦某位 INFJ 对某一工作予以关注,一次简单的办公室争论都可能被上升成一次严重的灾难.一旦某 位 INFJ 承担起某一工作的责任,他就会为所有人和事承担所有的责任.比如,某位同事今天不开心, 他也会认为是自己工作的失败.如果这种承担责任的愿望没有得到合理的抑制,失败感会不断加深,最 终陷入自我否定和自责中. INFJ 的第三个缺点是容易将简单的事情复杂化,从而产生极端的反应.简单说就是容易小题大做. 他们对待事物的态度可能会超过事物本身的需要.INFJ 们对公司新的食堂政策的不同意见可能从一场 简单的规章制度的争论演变为如何解决世界温饱问题的革命运动. 其他人对这种事情的发生总是会感到 十分困惑.另外,INFJ 在对待事物上,一开始总会无比坚定,经历几次挫折后,他们又会选择极端的 退让,这使得别人几乎没有可能去说服一个 INFJ 型的人

INFJ灵性特质的作家型

文字对你而言是神圣的,通过文字,你可以了解并且表达生命的神秘。

INFJ的岗位特质

1.允许我自己考虑并创立新颖的观点和/或方法来解决工作中出现的各种各样不同的问题,并帮助别人成长和发展。

2.能让我提供一种我所信仰且引以为豪的产品或服务。

3.承认我的首创、拥有者身份,以及所作的独有的共享。

4.能让我自由地表达自己,并让我看到我的洞察力所带来的结果。

5.能让我为别人的利益或别人提供服务而实施自己的想法,允许我一对一地展开工作。

6.有一个友好、没有紧张关系的工作氛围,其中我的看法能得到重视,而我的努力能得到别人的精神支持。

7.允许我独立地工作,且有机会在一个友好、没有人迹冲突的环境中经常与人探讨我的工作。

8.可以自由地安排自己的工作时间及环境,对自己的工作进程和工作成果有极大的支配权。

9.给予我足够的时间来制定并审查我的机会,以便使我的计划准备得很充分。

10.符合我自己的个人价值和观点,能让我在人格上和职业上都保持诚实正直的品质。

INFJ适合的职业

· 特殊教育教师
· 建筑设计师
· 培训经理/培训师
· 职业指导顾问
· 心理咨询师
· 网站编辑
· 作家
· 仲裁人
· 人力资源经理
· 事业发展顾问
· 营销人员
· 企业组织发展顾问
· 职位分析人员
· 媒体特约规划师
· 编辑/艺术指导(杂志)
· 口译人员
· 社会科学工作者
· 心理诊疗师
· 大学教师(人文学科、艺术类)
· 心理学、教育学、社会学、哲学及其它领域的研究人员
· 作家
· 诗人
· 剧作家
· 电影编剧
· 电影导演
· 画家
· 雕塑家
· 音乐家
· 艺术顾问
· 设计师

创造性职业:
艺术家
剧作家
小说家
诗人
室内设计师
信息制图设计师
整体设计师
自由媒体策划
编辑/艺术直到(杂志)
宗谱学家(家谱研究员)
桌面出版者/编辑
多媒体制片人
编辑/艺术指导(网站)
电影编辑
文献影片制作
背景设计师
教育软件开发员
展览设计员
戏服及服装专家
商品设计员及陈设员
艺术的吸引力在于他么能够运用他们的才能创造出独特的作品,同时把自己的观点和想象力融入其中。通过艺术,他们能以他们个人独有的方式表达自己,而同时又能以其艺术魅力震撼别人,更何况艺术作品一般来说大多是自己独立完成,这就使得INFK能够自己安排并支配工作环境、进程以及艺术作品。

宗教:
牧师/教士/修道士/修女
宗教工作者
宗教教育指导人
宗教事业要求一种能深入的、个人的奉献精神以及把宗教工作当成是一种使命的工作哲理。在献身于宗教事业后常常有一种使命感。他们从与人分享他们的人生哲学和信念中得到

很深的满足感。

咨询/教育业:
职业顾问
诊疗心理学家
老师:高中或大学英语、艺术、音乐、社科、戏剧
教育顾问
图书管理员
特殊教育老师
双语教育老师
雇员帮助顾问
儿童福利顾问
控制药品顾问
社会工作者(老人和儿童日常护理事务)
社会学家
博物馆研究人员
大众健康教育者
职业治疗师
教育规划主任
家长指导:孩子发育课程
发展心理学家

这些职业允许infj型人利用他们的想法和知识帮助别人咨询和教育领域非常要求个人之间的交流,常常是一个面对一个的形式,这使infj以与他人建立深入的关系。infj型人也乐于研究、学习和从教育行业获得发展的机会,他们通常会在学术环境中感到非常轻松自在。

健康保健/社会服务:
健康保健管理者
社会服务机构主管
调解员/冲突协调员
社会科学家
社会工作者
心里健康顾问
饮食学家/营养学家
语言病理学家/听力专家
整体健康护理医生(可替代性药品)
按摩治疗师
职业治疗师
脊椎按摩师
资金协调员
资金募集主管
法律调停员
成人日常保健协调员
矫形治疗师
立法助理
社会服务性工作要求为别人服务时尽职尽责,且常常指加入了某个社会服务组织。大多数INFJ喜欢在这样的环境中工作,尤其是这个组织只包含一小群有高度组织性的职员时。社会服务使得他们能自己考虑某种新方法来解决个体和社会问题,并依次种方法付诸行动。社会工作者经常要独立处理某一社会问题,这就使他们能与顾客或同事频繁在一对一基础上进行交往。

商业:
人力资源经理
推销人员(点子或服务)
组织发展顾问
雇员协调方案协调员/顾问
职业分析家
多元化经理—人事部门
公司/团队培训员
优先顾客销售代表
商品策划
环境律师
口译人员/笔译人员
计划供给官员
慈善事业顾问
博物馆馆长
文学作品代理商
新职顾问
商界只有某些领域才能使INFJ独特的天赋才能得以施展

技术:
消费者关系顾问
职员辩护律师(技术顾问)
教练
项目经理
合同经理
人才招聘员

最有效的求职战略必须建立在如下能力之上:
仔细考虑所有细节,制定一份创新的、有条理的求职计划
运用你的创造力策划一份求职计划
运用你的组织能力密切注意求职动向、拟定求职计划、面试时准时、面试后记得寄一封短笺给面试者、与可能的雇主处理好关系。
在有限的基础上打来关系网
请求多年来与你关系不错及对你很了解的人的帮忙,让他们帮你引见他们认识的、能给你提供求职机会的人
在每次面试中,要求别人给你提一些额外的工作推荐,以便你能对此领域或某个工作做更完整的调查。
与面试人员及可能的雇主建立融洽和谐的关系
运用你特别的能力来“解读”别人的要求的动机
让雇主感觉到你毫不做作的热心和热情,向他们证明你有耐心倾听、及清楚表达的能力

缜密周详地考虑你的选择,切勿仓促判断
人的性格中总有仔细周详地考虑事情这一面,尽可能地利用你性格中的这一面
决定给你自己几分钟来思考一下那些被你一眼就排除的选择
创造一份能满足你特定要求的职业
运用你的洞察力预见一下你这种才能的人才未来的需求趋势
向你可能的未来老板展示你的才能,让他知道你回怎样去帮助别人达到他们的目标或解决他们的问题
创造性地解决工作中的障碍
把暂时的挫折当做需解决的问题,不要蔑视它,也不要认为它是无法逾越的障碍
运用你的天赋能力往前看、把注意力放在下一个目标上、或迅速从沮丧中振作起来

可能的盲点:


把注意力集中在这个职业的实际情况和细节上,不要只在乎更有趣的宏伟蓝图
要求你有意识努力去了解摆在你面前的到底是什么—-对它要研究本质,不要只看表面现象
把你想问的关于这份工作的实际问题提前做个记录,包括工作时间、所要担的责任、薪水、所要担的责任、薪水、福利、以及工作报告制度
尽量对求职过程及可能的支出做出切合实际的估计
进行“实际测试”以检验你是否对市场情况、你自己的技能、以及求职的花销心中有数。请求你的一位朋友帮忙就你的职业计划提出异议
目标要定得更实际一点,避免过于理想主意的趋势,否则如果你所希望的没有完全满足的话,你就会觉得失望
做决定时尽量不要仅建立在个人感情基础之上,而应根据更为客观的数据
有意识运用你的逻辑思维能力
与你面试中结交的朋友保持一定距离,切勿保持永久联系,除非对他们了解更多以后
谈论你的技巧和能力时,你应该尽量去迎合你可能的老板的需要,而不是你自己的
向你未来的老板表明你已对公司目前所面临的挑战做一些研究,然后你再向他介绍你过去的经历和成就来证明你有能力帮助他们解决这些问题
你可以向他表示你愿意冒险处理一个新挑战以证明自己的实力。多花几秒钟想想是否还有别的途径来证明自己,即使你认为你已下定决心
不要浪费太多时间来考虑可能情况而没有足够的时间来付诸行动
把你认为你要找的可能适合你的工作的选择列在一张单子上,并附上对其中每个工作继续拧相应调查研究的时间表,规定自己在某个特定的时间段完成定量的信,打完多少电话,或参加完多少个面试

在定工作标准时尽量灵活一点,不要太死板。记住:在协商工作条件的过程中,如果你愿意接受另一种观点,意想不到的事可能发生

优势:
诚实正直,从而鼓励着人们重视你的想法
对于那些于你很重要的项目你专注且执着
坚决果断,并有高度组织能力
有创造力,能提出独树一帜的解决问题的方法
与别人感情交融,能预见别人的需要
能以透视法看到事情发展的宏观图像以及意识与行动间未来的潜在联系
有理解复杂概念的能力
对别人真正关心,有帮助成长和发展的才能
独立,有很强的个人信念
有做出成绩、不达目的的不罢休的干劲
对自己信仰的事业尽职尽责

可能的盲点:
过分的专心致志,结果可能导致死板
对于要做完一件事要花多少时间心中没有数
很难做与自己价值观相冲突的事
对计划的可行性有不切实际的倾向
一旦做出决定不愿再回过头来审视一下,更不愿撤销决定
不会处理矛盾,易于忽略不快
很难拉下面子客观、直接地训诫属下
很难把复杂的想法简明地表达出来
易于仓促下判断

缺点有些是天生的,而有些是长时间形成的,因此你不可能在一两天内改变,而是去提醒、思考。注意:其实知道存在的问题就是改变提高中很重要的一步,你会发现你正在慢慢发生变化。

由于往往注意“思想”,infj型的人有时不切实际,会忽视需要注意的常规细节。更多地是对周围事物的注意,以及更多地依赖于经证实的消息,这使infj型的人在真实的世界中停留于自己创造的思想。

infj型的人对于自己的原则如此坚定,以至于发展到眼光狭窄的地步。他们很顽固地对待变化,一旦决定已经做出,他们可能会拒绝改变。有时他们会忽略不支持他们立场的重要事实,或是拒绝与他们的价值观相冲突的看法。他们不可能听取其他人的异议,因为对他们来说,自己的立场似乎是毫无疑问的。infj型的人应该尝试更加客观地看待自我和自己的工作。

因为他们对于自己的观点如此具有保护性,所以infj型的人往往超越常规。他们经常是完美主义者,会对批评过敏。虽然他们意志坚强,但是在处理人际关系中的冲突也会遇到困难,如果冲突发展,他们会变得失望和沮丧。对于他们的人际关系和自我,infj型的人越客观,越少受这些伤害的影响。

发展建议

*注意细节;学会灵活一点;

*无论做什么事情都要自发自愿,不要让人督促你。

*需要发展果断性技能;

*需要学会在适当的基础上给人以建设性的反馈;

*需要和他人一道检讨自己的眼光;

*需要放松,对于目前情况下能够完成的事情,应当报有更开放的态度。

伴侣

作为一个内向型的男性,通常可以和内向型的女性发展一段没有压力的感情关系;因此,作家型或是哲学家型(INFP)都相当适合你。若你希望有一个随兴的伴侣来平衡你规律的生活,哲学家型的女性会是一个很棒的配偶。

以下这些地点是可以遇见作家型的场合,包括:教堂、犹太教教会或其他宗教组织。虽然任何一种恋爱类型都有可能参加宗教或心灵活动,作家型尤其以他们的灵性特质著称(虽然就传统观念而言,不一定是指宗教)。

跟哲学家型一样,作家型也喜欢到博物馆、艺术廊和剧院。博物馆里头的咖啡厅是一个遇见他们的好地方,你可以在那里发现他们一手捧着书本,一手拿着三明治

由于作家型在一开始的时候并不太健谈,你很有可能必须采取主动的态度展开一段对话。因为他们通常会对心理学和哲学感兴趣,所以大可从这些主题下手。

理想主义者&艺术创造者:

理想主义者极其欣赏艺术创造者型配偶在现实世界中所表现出来的洒脱、自然本色,这与他们常常忍受折磨、内疚的生活体验有着极大不同。另外,艺术创造者型伴侣喜爱享受感官享受和大胆满足性欲的特点也吸引着理想主义者型的人,并激发了他们的浪漫想像。

但这种婚姻中也蕴藏了令人不满意的种子,即艺术创造者型人缺乏谈论自己生命内涵的兴趣。

理想主义者&护卫者:

同护卫者型的伴侣在一起使理想主义者在家中感到舒适和令人安心的稳定性,给他们一种脚踏实地的感觉。护卫者还有种让常常犹豫不决的理想主义者肃然起敬的坚定,确切的是非观。两者都属于社会合作者,在生活规范上减小了冲突矛盾。

然而,护卫者在分享理想主义者丰富内涵的过程中存在困惑,并有可能因此使他们的理想主义者伴侣失望。他们忠实聆听试图取悦于理想主义者,但是后者迟早会感到自己不被赏识,继而给两者带来压力。

理想主义者&理想主义者:

很容易和气质相同的人结为夫妻,并往往相处得异常和睦,他们对彼此内心世界的探索让对方满意,并且也可能一时创造出美妙的性爱关系。但是,过于相似和过多的时间追求精神目标而筋疲力尽,及过多的内心交流,必然会侵入对方的私密空间,而导致双方心神不安。

理想主义者&理性者:

选择理性者作为配偶,似乎最能保证理想主义者的成功。他们相互协调的基础是:两者都基本上生活在抽象的世界里。约会了其它类型后,偶然遇到的理性者会让理想主义者觉得发现了新大陆,并渴望能够想像出遥远的未来。同时,令人神往的是理性者的冷静和自主性,这两个特点,都是牢牢的抓住自己的本性,致使容易激动和内省的理想主义者对此极为钦佩,并希望仿效之。

当然,两者并不总是那么和睦。理想主义者的善于情感表达和理性者的自我控制、直觉和逻辑、伦理道德和技术实用主义之间的冲突,使再完善的组合也存在着挑战。理想主义者总是尝试将理性者对表达感情的抵触、表面上的冷漠攻破,可想而知是火花四溅的,也许就是因为这些火花,才使理想主义者对理性者情有独钟。

INFJ Personal Growth

What does Success mean to an INFJ?
People with the INFJ personality type are intense and perfectionistic. They have deep insights into many aspects of life, and usually have very high standards for their own understanding and accomplishments, as well as those of others. They are service-oriented and empathetic to other individuals. The INFJ strives for the ideal in every aspect of their life. An INFJ’s feeling of success is centered around their own level of understanding and accomplishment, their usefulness or service to others, and the condition of their personal relationships. The INFJ feels successful when they haved used their very deep understanding of something to do a real service for someone. We often see INFJ personality types as counsellors and teachers, or in the medical and health fields.
Allowing Your INFJ Strengths to Flourish
As an INFJ, you have gifts that are specific to your personality type that aren’t natural strengths for other types. By recognizing your special gifts and encouraging their growth and development, you will more readily see your place in the world, and be more content with your role.
Nearly all INFJs will recognize the following characteristics in themselves. They should embrace and nourish these strengths:
They’re extremely insightful, and see things that are not obvious to others. This ability to see patterns and meanings in the world can help the INFJ in many different ways. INFJs usually have a great deal of insight into different people and situations.
When given a goal or context, an INFJ is able to generate all kinds of possibilities. They’re able to see the problem from many different angles.
They understand how others are feeling, and are genuinely concerned with others. This natural empathy and caring helps to be really effective at helping others through problems. In this manner, they make great friends, counselors, teachers, and mates.
An INFJ has a “stick to it” attitude. They’re not afraid of hard work, and will put forth a great deal of effort towards something that they believe in. This persistence will help the INFJ to achieve an identified goal.
Perfectionistic and idealistic, they always strive for the best.
Usually intelligent and able to concentrate and focus, the INFJ can usually grasp difficult ideas and concepts.
INFJs who have a well-developed Extraverted Feeling function to complement their dominant Introverted iNtuition will enjoy these very special gifts:
They can turn their insightful understanding about a situation into a successful plan of action.
The INFJ with well-developed judgment will be able to grasp and process concepts that are beyond what their natural intelligence appears to be able to handle.
They may achieve a level of understanding that makes them appear wise.
The INFJ’s perfectionism and idealism, when combined with their empathy and genuine concern for others, can cause them to be true servants for people in some fashion. They may be great doctors or ministers or counselors. If they have also achieved a good amount of life wisdom, they can become powerful forces, such as Jesus (INFJ) and Mahatma Ghandi (INFJ).
Potential Problem Areas
With any gift of strength, there is an associated weakness. Without “bad”, there would be no “good”. Without “difficult”, there would be no “easy”. We value our strengths, but we often curse and ignore our weaknesses. To grow as a person and get what we want out of life, we must not only capitalize upon our strengths, but also face our weaknesses and deal with them. That means taking a hard look at our personality type’s potential problem areas.
INFJs are rare and intelligent people with many special gifts. This should be kept in mind as you read some of the more negative material about INFJ weaknesses. Remember that these weaknesses are natural. We offer this information to enact positive change, rather than as blatant criticism. We want you to grow into your full potential, and be the happiest and most successful person that you can become.
Most of the weaker characteristics that are found in INFJs are due to their dominant function (Introverted iNtuition) overtaking their personality to the point that the other forces in their personality exist merely to serve the purposes of Introverted iNtuition. In such cases, an INFJ may show some or all of the following weaknesses in varying degrees:
May be unaware (and sometimes uncaring) of how they come across to others
May quickly dismiss input from others without really considering it
May apply their judgment more often towards others, rather than towards themselves
With their ability to see an issue from many sides, they may always find others at fault for any problems in their lives
May have unrealistic and/or unreasonable expectations of others
May be intolerant of weaknesses in others
May believe that they’re always right
May be obsessive and passionate about details that may be unimportant to the big picture
May be cuttingly derisive and sarcastic towards others
May have an intense and quick temper
May be tense, wound up, have high blood pressure and find it difficult to relax
May hold grudges, and have difficulty forgiving people
May be wishy-washy and unsure how to act in situations that require quick decision making
May have difficulty communicating their thoughts and feelings to others
May see so many tangents everywhere that they can’t stay focused on the bottom line or the big picture
Explanation of Problems
Most of the problems described above are a result of Introverted iNtuition overtaking the INFJ’s personality to the point that all of the other functions become slaves to Introverted iNtuition. A healthy personality needs to have a good balance between its dominant and auxiliary functions. For an INFJ, the dominant Introverted iNtuition needs to be well-supported by the auxiliary Extraverted Feeling function. If Extraverted Feeling exists only to support the desires of Introverted iNtuition, then neither function is being used to its potential.
Introverted iNtuition is a personality function that constantly gathers information, and sees everything from many different perspectives. As the dominant player in a personality, it has the effect of constantly bombarding the psyche with new information to consider. Introverted iNtuition is sort of like a framework for understanding that exists in the mind. As something is perceived, it is melded into the existing intuitive framework. If an entirely new piece of information is perceived by the Introverted iNtuitive, that person must redefine their entire framework of reference. So, Introverted iNtuitives are constantly taking in information about the world that needs to be processed in a relatively lengthy manner in order to be understood. That presents quite a challenge to the INFJ. It’s not unusual for an INFJ to feel overwhelmed with all of the things that he or she needs to consider in order to fully understand an idea or situation.
When Introverted iNtuition dominates the INFJ such that the other functions cannot serve their own purposes, we find the INFJ cutting off information that it needs to consider. If the psyche is presented with information that looks anything like something that Introverted iNtuition has processed in the past, it uses Extraverted Feeling to quickly reject that information. The psyche uses Extraverted Feeling to reject the ideas, rather than taking the information into its intuitive framework, and therefore potentially causing that framework to be reshaped and redefined.
Using Extraverted Feeling in this manner may effectively serve the immediate needs of Introverted iNtuition, but it is not ideal. It causes the INFJ to not consider information that may be useful or criticial in developing a real understanding of an issue. It may cause the INFJ to come off as too strongly opinionated or snobbish to others.
The better use of Extraverted Feeling for an INFJ would be to use it to assess the INFJ’s rich insights and weigh them against the external world. When the INFJ personality uses Extraverted Feeling to cut off incoming information, rather than to judge internal intuitions, it is effectively cheating itself. It’s like getting the answers to a test without having to really understand the questions. It’s easier to get the answer right away, rather than to have to figure everything out. For the INFJ, who has a tremendous amount of information and “studying” that needs to be done, it’s very tempting to take shortcuts. Most INFJs will do this to some extent. The real problems occur when an INFJ personality has become so imbalanced that its owner is extremely self-important and rarely consider anyone else’s opinions or ideas.
Solutions
To grow as an individual, the INFJ needs to focus on applying their judgment to things only after they have gone through their intuition. In other words, the INFJ needs to consciously try not to use their judgment to dismiss ideas prematurely. Rather, they should use their judgment against their own ideas. One cannot effectively judge something that they don’t understand. The INFJ needs to take things entirely into their intuition in order to understand them. It may be neccesary to give your intuition enough time to work through the new information so that it can rebuild its global framework of understanding. INFJs need to focus on using their judgment not to dismiss ideas, but rather to support their intuitive framework.
An INFJ who is concerned with personal growth will pay close attention to the subject of their judgments, and their motivation for making judgments. Are they judging something external to themself, or are they judging something that they have sifted through their intuition? Is the motivation for judging something to be able to understand its usefulness in the world, or to dismiss it? Too often, an INFJ will judge something without properly understanding it, and with the intention of dismissing it. Seek first to understand, then to judge.
Living Happily in our World as an INFJ
Some INFJs have difficulty fitting into our society. Their problems are generally associated with not knowing (or caring) how they come across to others, and with having unreasonable expectations for others’ behaviors. Both of these issues stem from using Extraverted Feeling primarily to dismiss external ideas, rather than to sort through their own intuitions.
An INFJ who uses Extraverted Feeling in this diminished manner may become so strongly opinionated that they form rigid and unreasonable expectations for others. They may feel so strongly about things that they become very passionate and agitated when they feel that something has gone wrong. In these cases, it’s not uncommon for the INFJ to express their displeasure with biting sarcasm. They become so emotionally upset that they are generally not aware of how their behavior comes across to others. Even if the consequences of their attitude and behavior is pointed out to them, they may be agitated to the point that they don’t care. This kind of situation can be devastating to the INFJ on many levels, and should be avoided. There isn’t much that can be done once the INFJ has reached the point where they are too upset to care about others, but the INFJ can prevent this problem from occuring by ensuring that they never get to that point.
How can you, as an INFJ, ensure that you won’t get that upset? It probably seems to you that these kinds of upsets are caused by external circumstances and situations. Well, that’s not really true. It’s true that things will happen over which you have no control. But you certainly have control over how you perceive these things, or more appropriately, how you *judge* these things.
Specific suggestions:
Take care to listen to someone’s idea entirely before you pass judgment on it. Ask questions if neccesary. Do whatever it takes to make sure that you understand the idea. Try not to begin judging anything about the idea until you have understood it entirely.
Before you begin talking to another person, pause for a moment and look at that person. Take in that person’s attitude and feelings at that moment. Be aware of the person with whom you’re speaking.
If you become upset, walk away immediately. DO NOT express anger. When you get angry, you lose. After you have calmed down, apologize for leaving and continue with what you were doing.
Try to identify the personality type of everyone that you encounter frequently in your life. Remember that people with the Sensing preference need to be communicated with in a direct, concise manner. Speak plainly and simply with Sensors, giving “yes” or “no” answers.
Try to be on good terms with all people, even those that you consider beneath you. Try to understand that everybody has something to offer.
Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve INFJ Success
Feed Your Strengths! Do things that allow your brilliant intuition and service-oriented manner to flourish.
Face Your Weaknesses! See your weaknesses for what they are, and seek to overcome them. Especially, strive to use your judgment against your internal ideas and intuitions, rather than as a means of disregarding other people’s ideas.
Talk Through Your Thoughts. You need to step through your intuitions in order to put them into perspective. Give yourself time to do this, and take advantage of discussing ideas with others. You’ll find externalizing your internal intuitions to be a valuable exercise.
Take in Everything. Don’t dismiss ideas prematurely because you don’t respect the person generating the ideas, or because you think you already know it all. After all, everybody has something to offer, and nobody knows everything. Steven Covey says it so well when he says: “Seek first to understand, and then to be understood.”
When You Get Angry, You Lose. Your passion and intensity are strong assets, but can be very harmful if you allow yourself to fall into the “Anger Trap”. Remember that Anger is destructive to your personal relationships. Work through your anger before you impress it upon others, or you will likely find yourself alone. Disagreements and disappointments can only be handled effectively in a non-personal and dispassionate manner.
Keep Your Eye on the Big Picture Watch out for your tendency to become obsessed with details. If you find yourself feeling very, very strongly about a small detail, take a big step back and make sure that you can still see the goal. You’re not going to get there if you get mired in the details.
Be Accountable for Yourself. Don’t blame the problems in your life on other people. Look inwardly for solutions. No one has more control over your life than you have.
Be Humble. Judge yourself at least as harshly as you judge others.
Assume the Best. Don’t distress yourself and others by dwelling on the dark side of everything. Just as there is a positive charge for every negative charge, there is a light side to every dark side. Remember that positive situations are created by positive attitudes. Expect the best, and the best will come forward.
Relax! Do yourself a favor and learn how to effectively unwind. Get exercise and restful sleep. Take vacations. Engage in relaxing activities. Take care of yourself and your loved ones by learning to let go of your passion and intensity for a respite.
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What does Success mean to an INFJ?
成功对于INFJ意味着什么?

People with the INFJ personality type are intense and perfectionistic. They have deep insights into many aspects of life, and usually have very high standards for their own understanding and accomplishments, as well as those of others. They are service-oriented and empathetic to other individuals. The INFJ strives for the ideal in every aspect of their life. An INFJ’s feeling of success is centered around their own level of understanding and accomplishment, their usefulness or service to others, and the condition of their personal relationships. The INFJ feels successful when they haved used their very deep understanding of something to do a real service for someone. We often see INFJ personality types as counsellors and teachers, or in the medical and health fields.
INFJ型的人是感情浓烈和完美主义的。他们对于生命的许多方面具有深刻的洞察力,并且用相当高的标准来评价自己和他人的认知以及成就。面对其他个体时,他们是服务导向的和感情移入的。INFJ在他们生命的各个方面都追求理想主义。INFJ对于成功的感觉是基于他们自身的认知和成就水平,他们对于其他人的价值和服务能力,以及他们的私人人际关系状况。当INFJ运用了他们对于某件事的深刻认知来为某个人提供真正的服务之后,他们会感受到成就感。我们常看到INFJ当顾问或者教师,或是看到他们在医学和健康领域工作。

Allowing Your INFJ Strengths to Flourish
让你的INFJ力量茂盛发展

As an INFJ, you have gifts that are specific to your personality type that aren’t natural strengths for other types. By recognizing your special gifts and encouraging their growth and development, you will more readily see your place in the world, and be more content with your role.
作为一个INFJ,你拥有你的人格类型所特有的天赋,它们对于其他类型来说并不是天生就有的能力。通过识别你的独特天赋,并激励它们成长和发展,你可以更加容易的在这个世界上定位自己,并且更加满意于自己的角色。

Nearly all INFJs will recognize the following characteristics in themselves. They should embrace and nourish these strengths:
差不多所有INFJ都会发现他们具有下列特质。他们应当拥抱和滋养这些力量:

They’re extremely insightful, and see things that are not obvious to others. This ability to see patterns and meanings in the world can help the INFJ in many different ways. INFJs usually have a great deal of insight into different people and situations.
1.他们极其富有洞察力,可以看到那些对于其他人来说并非显而易见的事情。这种在世界上发现模式和涵义的能力可以在许多不同的方面帮助INFJ。INFJ常常拥有大量的深入洞察,涉及到形形色色的人和形势。

When given a goal or context, an INFJ is able to generate all kinds of possibilities. They’re able to see the problem from many different angles.
2.当被给予了一个目标或者背景后,INFJ有能力找出各种各样的可能性。他们能从多种不同的角度看待问题。

They understand how others are feeling, and are genuinely concerned with others. This natural empathy and caring helps to be really effective at helping others through problems. In this manner, they make great friends, counselors, teachers, and mates.
3.他们理解别人的感受,并且真诚的关心别人。这种天生的移情和关怀让他们能够有效的帮助他人解决问题。因此,他们可以成为非常好的朋友,顾问,教师和伙伴。

An INFJ has a “stick to it” attitude. They’re not afraid of hard work, and will put forth a great deal of effort towards something that they believe in. This persistence will help the INFJ to achieve an identified goal.
4.INFJ有着一种“坚持不懈”的态度。他们不畏惧艰苦工作,会为了相信的事情投入大量努力。这种持久性会帮助INFJ实现明确的目标。

Perfectionistic and idealistic, they always strive for the best.
5.作为完美主义和理想主义的人,他们总是努力做到最好。

Usually intelligent and able to concentrate and focus, the INFJ can usually grasp difficult ideas and concepts.
6.一般来说,INFJ聪明,可以集中注意力并专注于某件事,他们常常能领会复杂的观点和概念。

INFJs who have a well-developed Extraverted Feeling function to complement their dominant Introverted iNtuition will enjoy these very special gifts:
那些充分发展了外倾情感功能来辅助他们的主导内倾直觉功能的INFJ可以享有这些非常独特的天赋:

They can turn their insightful understanding about a situation into a successful plan of action.
1.他们可以将对于形势的深入认知转变为成功的行动方案。

The INFJ with well-developed judgment will be able to grasp and process concepts that are beyond what their natural intelligence appears to be able to handle.
2.充分发展了判断的INFJ能领会和处理那些以他们天生的智力好像无法掌握的概念。

They may achieve a level of understanding that makes them appear wise.
3.他们能达到一定的认知水平,使他们显得有智慧。

The INFJ’s perfectionism and idealism, when combined with their empathy and genuine concern for others, can cause them to be true servants for people in some fashion. They may be great doctors or ministers or counselors. If they have also achieved a good amount of life wisdom, they can become powerful forces, such as Jesus (INFJ) and Mahatma Ghandi (INFJ).
4.INFJ的完美主义和理想主义,与他们的移情和对别人的真诚关心结合在一起时,可以使得他们成为一定程度上的真正为人们服务的人。他们可能是伟大的医生,大臣或顾问。如果他们还拥有大量的人生智慧,他们可以成为强大的力量,如耶稣(INFJ)和圣雄甘地(INFJ)。

Potential Problem Areas
可能的问题区域

With any gift of strength, there is an associated weakness. Without “bad”, there would be no “good”. Without “difficult”, there would be no “easy”. We value our strengths, but we often curse and ignore our weaknesses. To grow as a person and get what we want out of life, we must not only capitalize upon our strengths, but also face our weaknesses and deal with them. That means taking a hard look at our personality type’s potential problem areas.
任何天赋力量都有其相关的弱点。没有“坏”,也就没有“好”。没有“困难”,也就没有“容易”。我们重视自己的力量,但却常常诅咒和忽略自己的弱点。为了成长为一个人,并得到我们生命中想要的东西,我们不仅要让我们的力量成为自己的资本,也要面对我们的弱点点并解决他们。这意味着苛刻的审视我们的人格类型的可能的问题区域。

INFJs are rare and intelligent people with many special gifts. This should be kept in mind as you read some of the more negative material about INFJ weaknesses. Remember that these weaknesses are natural. We offer this information to enact positive change, rather than as blatant criticism. We want you to grow into your full potential, and be the happiest and most successful person that you can become.
INFJ是稀有而聪明的人,拥有许多独特的天赋。当你读一些关于INFJ的弱点的比较负面的资料时,这一点要牢记在心。记住这些弱点是天生的。我们提供这些信息是为了帮你做出正面的改变,而不是指责。我们希望你发挥出你所有的潜力,并成为你能成为的最快乐和成功的人。

Most of the weaker characteristics that are found in INFJs are due to their dominant function (Introverted iNtuition) overtaking their personality to the point that the other forces in their personality exist merely to serve the purposes of Introverted iNtuition. In such cases, an INFJ may show some or all of the following weaknesses in varying degrees:
大部分在INFJ身上找到的较弱的性格特征是由于他们的主导功能(内倾直觉)在他们的人格中处于过于压制性的地位,到了他们人格中的其他势力仅仅为服务内倾直觉的意志而存在的地步。在这种情况下,INFJ会在不同程度上表现出某些或全部下述的弱点:

May be unaware (and sometimes uncaring) of how they come across to others
1.可能不知道(并且有时不在意)怎样使别人理解他们。

May quickly dismiss input from others without really considering it
2.可能在没有真正思考的情况下丢弃别人输入的信息。

May apply their judgment more often towards others, rather than towards themselves
3.可能更经常的将他们的判断运用于别人,而不是自己身上。

With their ability to see an issue from many sides, they may always find others at fault for any problems in their lives
4.拥有着从多个不同的侧面看待一个问题的能力,他们可能不断在别人生命的任何问题上发现错误。

May have unrealistic and/or unreasonable expectations of others
5.可能对别人抱有不现实的 和/或 不合理的期望。

May be intolerant of weaknesses in others
6.可能无法容忍别人的缺点。

May believe that they’re always right
7.可能相信他们总是对的。

May be obsessive and passionate about details that may be unimportant to the big picture
8.可能会着迷和热情于对于全局不重要的细节。

May be cuttingly derisive and sarcastic towards others
9.可能会尖锐的嘲笑和讥讽别人。

May have an intense and quick temper
10.可能会有感情用事和易怒的脾气。

May be tense, wound up, have high blood pressure and find it difficult to relax
11.可能会紧张,激动,有高血压并发现很难放松。

May hold grudges, and have difficulty forgiving people
12.可能心怀怨恨,很难原谅别人。

May be wishy-washy and unsure how to act in situations that require quick decision making
13.可能是空洞的,并且在需要快速做出决定的环境下不知道该如何行动。

May have difficulty communicating their thoughts and feelings to others
14.可能在和别人交流他们的想法和感受方面有困难。

May see so many tangents everywhere that they can’t stay focused on the bottom line or the big picture
15.可能在处处看到大量的离题信息,以至于无法专注于底线或者全图。

Explanation of Problems
问题的解释

Most of the problems described above are a result of Introverted iNtuition overtaking the INFJ’s personality to the point that all of the other functions become slaves to Introverted iNtuition. A healthy personality needs to have a good balance between its dominant and auxiliary functions. For an INFJ, the dominant Introverted iNtuition needs to be well-supported by the auxiliary Extraverted Feeling function. If Extraverted Feeling exists only to support the desires of Introverted iNtuition, then neither function is being used to its potential.
大部分上面描述的问题是由于内倾直觉在INFJ的人格中处于过于压制性的地位,到了所有其他功能都成为内倾直觉的奴隶的地步。健康的人格需要在它的主导和辅助功能之间有一个好的平衡。对于INFJ来说,主导内倾直觉功能需要得到辅助外倾情感功能的良好支持。如果外倾情感仅为支持内倾直觉的欲望而存在,那么两种功能都没有发挥出它们的潜力。

Introverted iNtuition is a personality function that constantly gathers information, and sees everything from many different perspectives. As the dominant player in a personality, it has the effect of constantly bombarding the psyche with new information to consider. Introverted iNtuition is sort of like a framework for understanding that exists in the mind. As something is perceived, it is melded into the existing intuitive framework. If an entirely new piece of information is perceived by the Introverted iNtuitive, that person must redefine their entire framework of reference. So, Introverted iNtuitives are constantly taking in information about the world that needs to be processed in a relatively lengthy manner in order to be understood. That presents quite a challenge to the INFJ. It’s not unusual for an INFJ to feel overwhelmed with all of the things that he or she needs to consider in order to fully understand an idea or situation.
内倾直觉是一个持续的收集信息,并且从很多不同的角度看待所有的东西的人格功能。作为人格中的主导者,它拥有不断的用新的待考虑的信息来轰炸精神的能力。内倾直觉有几分像一个存在于头脑里的认知框架。当某个东西被感知后,它就被纳入这个已经存在的直觉框架。如果一条彻底陌生的信息被内倾直觉所感知,这个人就必须对他的整个索引框架进行重定义。因此,为了达到理解的目的,内倾直觉持续不断的以一种相对而言冗长的方式收集关于这个世界的待处理的信息。这对于INFJ来说是挺大的一项挑战。对于INFJ来说,为了彻底的理解一个观点或者形势,他们要考虑所有的事情,这让他们感到紧张不安,这种情况是不稀罕的。

When Introverted iNtuition dominates the INFJ such that the other functions cannot serve their own purposes, we find the INFJ cutting off information that it needs to consider. If the psyche is presented with information that looks anything like something that Introverted iNtuition has processed in the past, it uses Extraverted Feeling to quickly reject that information. The psyche uses Extraverted Feeling to reject the ideas, rather than taking the information into its intuitive framework, and therefore potentially causing that framework to be reshaped and redefined.
当内倾直觉支配了INFJ,使得其他功能无法服务于它们自身的目的时,我们发现INFJ切除那些需要考虑的信息。如果精神被给予了一条看起来像是内倾直觉过去已经处理过的某种东西的信息,它便用外倾情感来迅速的拒绝这条信息。精神用外倾情感来拒绝观点,而不是将信息纳入它的直觉框架,并因此而可能导致框架的重塑和重定义。

Using Extraverted Feeling in this manner may effectively serve the immediate needs of Introverted iNtuition, but it is not ideal. It causes the INFJ to not consider information that may be useful or criticial in developing a real understanding of an issue. It may cause the INFJ to come off as too strongly opinionated or snobbish to others.
以这种方式使用外倾情感可以有效的满足内倾直觉的直接需求,但这不是理想的做法。这导致INFJ不去考虑那些在发展对于一个问题的真实认知时可能有用或者关键的信息。这可能导致INFJ表现的太强烈的固执己见或者对别人势利。

The better use of Extraverted Feeling for an INFJ would be to use it to assess the INFJ’s rich insights and weigh them against the external world. When the INFJ personality uses Extraverted Feeling to cut off incoming information, rather than to judge internal intuitions, it is effectively cheating itself. It’s like getting the answers to a test without having to really understand the questions. It’s easier to get the answer right away, rather than to have to figure everything out. For the INFJ, who has a tremendous amount of information and “studying” that needs to be done, it’s very tempting to take shortcuts. Most INFJs will do this to some extent. The real problems occur when an INFJ personality has become so imbalanced that its owner is extremely self-important and rarely consider anyone else’s opinions or ideas.
对于INFJ来说,更好的使用外倾情感的办法是用它来评估INFJ的丰富的洞察,并把这些洞察放在外部世界中衡量。当INFJ人格用外倾情感来切除得到的信息,而不是判断内在的直觉时,它是在有效的欺骗自己。这就像在没有真正理解问题的情况下得到一个测试的答案。与不得不想方设法把所有的东西想明白相比,立刻得到答案要轻松一些。INFJ有着数量惊人的信息和待完成的“学习”,走捷径是十分有诱惑力的。大部分INFJ会在某种程度上这么做。当INFJ人格变得非常不平衡,以至于它的主人极其自大并且很少考虑任何其他人的看法或观点时,真正的问题出现了。

Solutions
解决方法

To grow as an individual, the INFJ needs to focus on applying their judgment to things only after they have gone through their intuition. In other words, the INFJ needs to consciously try not to use their judgment to dismiss ideas prematurely. Rather, they should use their judgment against their own ideas. One cannot effectively judge something that they don’t understand. The INFJ needs to take things entirely into their intuition in order to understand them. It may be neccesary to give your intuition enough time to work through the new information so that it can rebuild its global framework of understanding. INFJs need to focus on using their judgment not to dismiss ideas, but rather to support their intuitive framework.
为了成长为一个个体,INFJ需要专注于,只有在他们通过了他们的直觉之后,才将他们的判断应用到事物上。换句话说,INFJ需要有意识的努力不要让他们的判断过早的丢弃观点。相反,他们应该将他们的判断用于他们自己的观点。一个人无法有效的判断他不理解的东西。INFJ需要把事物完整的收入他们的直觉以理解它们。给你的直觉足够的时间来处理完新的信息,使得它能重建它的全局认知框架,可能是必要的。INFJ需要专注于不用他们的判断来丢弃观点,而用它们来支持他们的直觉框架。

An INFJ who is concerned with personal growth will pay close attention to the subject of their judgments, and their motivation for making judgments. Are they judging something external to themself, or are they judging something that they have sifted through their intuition? Is the motivation for judging something to be able to understand its usefulness in the world, or to dismiss it? Too often, an INFJ will judge something without properly understanding it, and with the intention of dismissing it. Seek first to understand, then to judge.
一个关心个人成长的INFJ会密切关注他们判断的目标,以及他们做判断的动机。他们在判断他们外部的某个东西,还是在判断已经被他们的直觉筛过的某个东西?判断某个东西的动机是为了能够理解它在这个世界上的有用性,还是为了丢弃它?太过于频繁的,INFJ在没有正确理解某个东西的情况下判断它,带着丢弃它的意图。首先努力做到理解,然后再判断。

Living Happily in our World as an INFJ
以INFJ的方式在我们的世界中快乐的生活

Some INFJs have difficulty fitting into our society. Their problems are generally associated with not knowing (or caring) how they come across to others, and with having unreasonable expectations for others’ behaviors. Both of these issues stem from using Extraverted Feeling primarily to dismiss external ideas, rather than to sort through their own intuitions.
一些INFJ在适应我们的社会方面存在困难。他们的问题一般与不知道(或不关心)怎样让别人理解他们,和对别人的行为抱有不合理的期望有关。这两个问题都起源于主要使用外倾情感来丢弃外部的观点,而不是整理他们自己的直觉。

An INFJ who uses Extraverted Feeling in this diminished manner may become so strongly opinionated that they form rigid and unreasonable expectations for others. They may feel so strongly about things that they become very passionate and agitated when they feel that something has gone wrong. In these cases, it’s not uncommon for the INFJ to express their displeasure with biting sarcasm. They become so emotionally upset that they are generally not aware of how their behavior comes across to others. Even if the consequences of their attitude and behavior is pointed out to them, they may be agitated to the point that they don’t care. This kind of situation can be devastating to the INFJ on many levels, and should be avoided. There isn’t much that can be done once the INFJ has reached the point where they are too upset to care about others, but the INFJ can prevent this problem from occuring by ensuring that they never get to that point.
一个用这种衰退的方式使用外倾情感的INFJ可能变得如此强烈的固执己见,以至于对别人形成刚性和不合理的期望。当他们感觉到什么东西不对劲时,他们对于事物的感受是如此的强烈,以至于变得非常的激动易怒和焦虑不安。(译者:我将passionate翻译成激动易怒,agitated翻译成焦虑不安,不知道是否正确。)在这些情况下,INFJ带着尖刻的讥讽表达他们的不快并不是一件罕见的事情。他们变得在情绪上如此烦乱不安,以至于一般意识不到怎样让别人理解他们的行为。即使有人向他们指出了他们的态度和行为的后果,他们也可能处于太过于焦虑不安的状况而并不在意。这种情况在很多不同的层次上对于INFJ来说都是毁灭性的,应该避免。一旦INFJ已经到了因为太烦乱不安而无法关注别人的地步,那就没有什么挽回的余地,但INFJ应该保证他们永远不到这个地步,以阻止这个问题发生。

How can you, as an INFJ, ensure that you won’t get that upset? It probably seems to you that these kinds of upsets are caused by external circumstances and situations. Well, that’s not really true. It’s true that things will happen over which you have no control. But you certainly have control over how you perceive these things, or more appropriately, how you *judge* these things.
作为一个INFJ,你怎样保证你自己不会变的那么烦乱不安?很可能对于你来说,这些各式各样的烦乱不安好像是由于外部的环境和形势引起的。其实,这并不完全正确。超过你的控制力的事情确实会发生。但是你理所当然的可以控制你如何来感知这些事物,或者更准确一点,你如何来*判断*这些事物。

Specific suggestions:
特别的建议:

Take care to listen to someone’s idea entirely before you pass judgment on it. Ask questions if neccesary. Do whatever it takes to make sure that you understand the idea. Try not to begin judging anything about the idea until you have understood it entirely.
1.务必在你对某个人的观点下判断前,彻底的听清楚他的观点。在必要时问问题。做任何该做的事以确定你理解了这个观点。努力做到在你彻底理解这个观点之前,不要开始对它做任何判断。

Before you begin talking to another person, pause for a moment and look at that person. Take in that person’s attitude and feelings at that moment. Be aware of the person with whom you’re speaking.
2.在你与别人交谈之前,停顿一会儿,看那个人。在这个时候了解他的态度和感觉。当你说话时,注意与你说话的人。

If you become upset, walk away immediately. DO NOT express anger. When you get angry, you lose. After you have calmed down, apologize for leaving and continue with what you were doing.
3.当你变得烦乱不安时,立刻走开。~~~不~~~~~~要~~~表达愤怒。当你变得气愤时,你就失败了。当你平静下来之后,为离开而道歉,并继续你之前做的事。

Try to identify the personality type of everyone that you encounter frequently in your life. Remember that people with the Sensing preference need to be communicated with in a direct, concise manner. Speak plainly and simply with Sensors, giving “yes” or “no” answers.
4.努力鉴别所有你的人生中会常常遇到的人的人格类型。记住具有S偏好的人需要以直接,简明的方式来交流。以清晰和简单的方式与S说话,给出“是”或“否”的回答。

Try to be on good terms with all people, even those that you consider beneath you. Try to understand that everybody has something to offer.
5.努力与所有人和睦相处,甚至是那些你觉得不如你的人。努力理解每个人都可以提供一些东西。

Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve INFJ Success
获得INFJ的成功要遵循的十条规则

Feed Your Strengths! Do things that allow your brilliant intuition and service-oriented manner to flourish.
1.喂养你的力量!做那些能让你的卓越的直觉和服务导向的个性茂盛发展的事情。

Face Your Weaknesses! See your weaknesses for what they are, and seek to overcome them. Especially, strive to use your judgment against your internal ideas and intuitions, rather than as a means of disregarding other people’s ideas.
2.面对你的缺点!看清楚你的缺点是什么,努力克服它们。特别是,力图将你的判断用于你的内部的观点和直觉上,而不是用它来忽视其他人的观点。

Talk Through Your Thoughts. You need to step through your intuitions in order to put them into perspective. Give yourself time to do this, and take advantage of discussing ideas with others. You’ll find externalizing your internal intuitions to be a valuable exercise.
3.与别人详细讨论你的想法。为了将你的直觉转变为远景,你需要逐步(译者:测试?验证?分析?整理?这里我也不大清楚该怎么翻译)通过你的直觉。给你自己时间来做这件事,并利用与别人讨论观点的方式。你会发现使你的内部直觉外部化是一项有价值的锻炼。

Take in Everything. Don’t dismiss ideas prematurely because you don’t respect the person generating the ideas, or because you think you already know it all. After all, everybody has something to offer, and nobody knows everything. Steven Covey says it so well when he says: “Seek first to understand, and then to be understood.”
4.接受一切。不要因为你不尊重提出观点的人,或者因为你认为你已经完全明白了,而过早的丢弃观点。毕竟每个人都能提供一些东西,没人知道所有的事情。Steven Covey的这句话说的非常好,“首先努力做到理解,然后再寻求被别人理解。”

When You Get Angry, You Lose. Your passion and intensity are strong assets, but can be very harmful if you allow yourself to fall into the “Anger Trap”. Remember that Anger is destructive to your personal relationships. Work through your anger before you impress it upon others, or you will likely find yourself alone. Disagreements and disappointments can only be handled effectively in a non-personal and dispassionate manner.
5.当你生气时,你就失败了。你的热诚和感情浓烈是强大的资产,但也能变得非常有害,如果你让自己落入“~愤怒~~陷阱~”的话。记住~愤怒~对于你的个人人际关系是破坏性的。在给别人留下愤怒的印象前处理完你的愤怒,不然你有可能会发现你自己独自一人。只有用非个人的并且冷静不带感情的方式,才能有效的处理分歧和失望。

Keep Your Eye on the Big Picture Watch out for your tendency to become obsessed with details. If you find yourself feeling very, very strongly about a small detail, take a big step back and make sure that you can still see the goal. You’re not going to get there if you get mired in the details.
6.密切关注全局。对于你痴迷细节的倾向保持警觉。如果你发现自己对于一个小细节有着非常,非常强烈的感觉,后退一大步并确定你仍然能看到目标。如果你深陷于细节的泥潭之中,你无法达成目标。

Be Accountable for Yourself. Don’t blame the problems in your life on other people. Look inwardly for solutions. No one has more control over your life than you have.
7.对自己负责。不要把你生命中的问题归咎于别人。向内审视寻找解决办法。对于你的生命,没有人拥有比你自己更强的控制力。

Be Humble. Judge yourself at least as harshly as you judge others.
8.保持谦卑。判断你自己时,至少要像你判断别人时那样严厉。

Assume the Best. Don’t distress yourself and others by dwelling on the dark side of everything. Just as there is a positive charge for every negative charge, there is a light side to every dark side. Remember that positive situations are created by positive attitudes. Expect the best, and the best will come forward.
9.设想最好的情况。不要对所有事情的黑暗面念念不忘,苦恼自己和别人。正如每个负电荷都有其对应的正电荷一样,每个黑暗面都有其对应的光明面。记住积极的形势是由积极的态度创造出来的。期待最好的情况,最好的情况会来临的。

Relax! Do yourself a favor and learn how to effectively unwind. Get exercise and restful sleep. Take vacations. Engage in relaxing activities. Take care of yourself and your loved ones by learning to let go of your passion and intensity for a respite.
10.放松!帮你自己一个忙,学习如何有效的放松。进行锻炼,充分睡眠。休假。沉浸在放松性的活动中。爱护你自己和你爱的人,学会放下你的热诚和浓烈的感情一段时间。

INFJs

我是新同学,最近做了测试,才发现自己是INFJ性格,回想一下,自己是比较喜欢帮别人分析问题,也会有很多人喜欢把我当成倾诉对象。从初中高到大学也一直是文科比较好,但是上大学的时候对学科没概念,就报了计算机,四年学下来,现在基本计算机的东西忘完了,但是英语一直保持很好,结果在后来的找工作当中还是起了一定的作用。毕业前三年一直在做销售,感觉也能把工作做好,但是就是很不喜欢,感觉压力很大,关键是不喜欢压力下的氛围,心里向往轻松美好的生活。我描述的轻松不是没有压力,只是做自己喜欢的事情,至于到达喜欢做什么,至今没有想清楚。我没事时候就喜欢自己一个人思考,思考自己走过的路,将要走的路,经常是每天每时都在总结中。现在做的工作,在别人看来非常理想,可以去很多地方,世界各地跑,很多是旅游城市,可以顺便旅游。可是我就是不喜欢,在世界名胜的地方我也自己宅在宿舍里不想出门,我不是不想去玩,但是我很感性,不喜欢跟自己不喜欢的人一起。对于我来说,世界名胜跟路边的公园感觉没什么不同,关键是看跟什么人一起,如果是跟感觉对人在一起,非常惬意非常舒适,如果感觉不对了,什么都不好。知道了自己的职业性格之后,我思考了很多,觉得需要为自己的职业好好做一个规划,现在的工作虽然还可以,但是我感觉没有什么大发展,我说他没有大发展,因为我不喜欢,不喜欢肯定就不会用心做,也就不会有什么大的成就。于是正在考虑换岗位,看了分析,我觉得职业顾问和心理咨询可能比较适合我,但是和之前的工作经历跨度太大,正在考虑如何切入….我是一个瞻前顾后的人,比较犹豫,我相信这个是INFJ人的共同特点,如果谁有好的建议,麻烦建议一下,多谢。

我的类型也是INFJ,明年就正式毕业了,现在在社会实习。在实习工作中,感觉那是另外一个我,工作让我心里有点不舒服,我更喜欢图画、色彩方面的工作,但大学学的不是设计专业,所以现在的我迷茫,不知道哪里才是我的方向,请问一下,在座的朋友中,有做设计方面工作的吗?

一个长期从事技术活的infj 问: 11/9/2009 5:25:41 PM

我28岁了,男。以前是做软件工程师,一直做的不怎么样,后来转学硬件(因为我父亲是个硬件高手)。但是最近我请教他指导我工作,他觉得我悟性不好,有一次无意中冒了一句“你不是搞技术的料”。说者无心听者有意,当天晚上我就好像疯掉了。 当天晚上,我开始回忆自己过去的经历: 大专毕业出来工作也有7年了。我做技术确实做得不太好,虽然也很勤奋,但感觉上有些力不从心;中学时候数学学的也没语文好,而且高考的时候,也是语文最高分(上了重点线),数学分数中等偏下。但因为父亲从小就告诉我“学好数理化,走遍天下不怕”,因此,一直以来都很认真的学习理科。 高考过后,可想而知,数学不太好的我,自然没有上本科。去了一所职高学校念计算机。之后对计算机也挺痴迷的,一直沉迷在编程的技术中。毕业后,凭着对技术的一些积累,我找到了一项软件工程师的工作。但后来做了3年,发现自己做得不太好,总觉得精力不够,这些体力活受不了。 后来发现做硬件比软件好。因为做硬件做好了就不用更改,不像软件,做好了客户经常还要改这改那的。于是考取专升本的电子信息工程专业(函授,专升本)。 这样又过了3年了(这三年来家里变故很多,自己身体也不好,边学习边炒股度过的),眼下我快毕业了,目前失业,工作也很难找。正在做毕业设计,很多技术问题问起了我爸。问着问着,他就冒出了那句话来…..唉…… 这几天实在很郁闷,整个人一点精神都没有。感觉到自己应该测试一下自己的性格倾向,于是来到了一个网站进行测试。一测,结果为: I86 N57 F100 J57 infj,中度倾向 然后一看解释,哇塞,说得好准呀!!!我才幡然醒悟!!!唉,十年呀!!我搞技术搞了 十年呀!!!!我该怎么办呀?? 我要不要转行?转哪一行?从网站上的推荐看到,我从事文艺工作比较合适。我才想起小时候经常画画被人称赞的经历;才想起中学时候一直担任宣传委员,出墙报,撰文章的经历;才想起偶尔情不自禁给心爱的MM写出一两篇情诗的经历。而且一个高中同学在博客上加了我的博客主页连接,上面的注释是“中学同学,一个作家和画家”。 林林总总,是否都说明我应该转行从事文艺呢?可是,我现在对美术和文学都没什么积累呀,怎么办?而且作家和画家除非很有名气,否则是很难赚钱的。 我该怎么办?怎么办?非常希望得到老师您的帮助
I am an INFJ suffering from low self esteem. I’ve been a programmer for a corporation now for about 12 years and have recently learned that it’s a bad fit for me. It’s nice to know that I don’t have to be so detailed and it’s
okay to not be so detailed all the time. Work has slowed down a lot this past year and we aren’t very busy and it seems that i have taken alot of the”grunt” work. I’m good a what I do and there are no conflicts at work, just
boredom. This is not good for my confidence. I’d like to make a career change, but because my self esteem is low I’m having problems deciding what to do next. I need to get out of the job that’s not helping my mental state, but my mental state is keeping me trapped. I’m not trusting my intuition and feelings like I used to and have become very analytical.

I wonder if I’m hurting myself by staying instead of leaving the company to figure this out. Are there any thinking processes that I could change to help build myself up?

Also, are you aware of any INFJ’s who are in technical fields that I could consider transitioning into or do I need to start all over?

Thanks so much-so glad to know that there are people like me out there!!

INFP

“INFP”(内向+直觉+情感+知觉)

理想主义者,忠于自己的价值观及自己所重视的人。外在的生活与内在的价值观配合,有好奇心,很快看到事情的可能与否,能够加速对理念的实践。试图了解别人、协助别人发展潜能。适应力强,有弹性;如果和他们的 价值观没有抵触,往往能包容他人。

INFP把内在的和谐视为高于其他一切。他们敏感、理想化、忠诚,对于个人价值具有一种强烈的荣誉感。他们个人信仰坚定,有为自认为有价值的事业献身的精神。 INFP型的人对于已知事物之外的可能性很感兴趣,精力集 中于他们的梦想和想象。他们思维开阔、有好奇心和洞察力,常常具有出色的长远眼光。在日常事务中,他们通常灵活多变、具有忍耐力和适应性,但是他们非常坚定地对待内心的忠诚,为自己设定了事实上几乎是不可能 的标准。 INFP型的人具有许多使他们忙碌的理想和忠诚。他们十分坚定地完成自己所选择的事情,他们往往承担得太多,但不管怎样总要完成每件事。虽然对外部世界他们显得冷淡缄默,但INFP型的人很关心内在。他们富 有同情心、理解力,对于别人的情感很敏感。除了他们的价值观受到威胁外,他们总是避免冲突,没有兴趣强迫或支配别人。INFP型的人常常喜欢通过书写而不是口头来表达自己的感情。当INFP型的人劝说别人相信他们的 想法的重要性时,可能是最有说服力的。 INFP很少显露强烈的感情,常常显得沉默而冷静。然而,一旦他们与你认识了,就会变得热情友好,但往往会避免浮浅的交往。他们珍视那些花费时间去思考目标与价值的人。

您适合的领域有:创作性、艺术类 教育、研究、咨询类等

您适合的职业有:

· 心理学家
· 心理辅导和咨询人员
· 人力资源管理
· 翻译
· 大学教师(人文学科)
· 社会工作者
· 图书管理员
· 服装设计师
· 编辑
· 网站设计师
· 团队建设顾问
· 艺术指导
· 记者
· 口笔译人员
· 娱乐业人士
· 建筑师
· 社科类研究人员
· 教育顾问
· 各类艺术家
· 插图画家
· 诗人
· 小说家

无论是领导还是下属,只要是为他人服务,为自己的理想尽力,INFP就会是最出色,最有效率的那种人。但如果工作没有意义,枯燥乏味,他们的工作效果合效率就会大打折扣,甚至抵触情绪。
显然,INFP最乐于做那些符合自己价值观的事情。然而,只要愿意稍微转换一下视角,把正在从事的并不那么有趣的事情看作是为别人服务的工作,他们就会为这份工作尽心尽力,在所不辞

你在工作中的优势:
考虑周到细致且能集中注意力深入某个问题或观点
渴望打破常规思考,并考虑新的可能情况
积极投身于所信仰的事业
必要时一个人也能很好地工作
对收集所需信息有一种天生的好奇与技巧
能通观全局以及看到意识与行为之间的联系
能洞察别人的需要与动机
适应能力强,能很快改变你的行事速度及目标
在一对一的基础上很极好地与人工作

您工作中的劣势:
必须控制方案/计划,否则你可能会失去兴趣
有变得无秩序性的倾向,很难把握优先处理的事
不愿做与自己价值观相冲突的工作
在做事方式上不愿按照传统方式
天生的理想主义,这样可能使你得不到现实的期望
讨厌以传统的或惯常的方式行事
很难在竞争的、气氛紧张的环境中工作下去
在处理及完成顽固的组织和人们打交道时没有耐心
在预计做某事要求多长时间时有不切实际的倾向
不愿惩戒直接肇事者,不愿意批评别人

你的岗位特质:
作为INFP型人,职业满足意味着你做的这些工作:
1、我的工作与我个人的价值观和信仰相一致,同时允许我通过工作表达我的想象力。
2、给我时间发展我的想法到相当深度,同时对这一思维过程以及思维产物操持控制权。
3、独立完成工作,有一个私人的工作空间以及大量不受干扰的时间,但必须有机会与我敬重的人交流一下观点。
4、我的工作环境是一个灵活性强的组织机构,其中繁琐的规章制度减至最少限度,同时允许我有灵感时工作。
5、我要在一个合作的环境中与别的有创造力的、讨人喜欢的人一起工作,且这个工作环境没有紧张的人际关系以及人际纠纷。
6、允许我表达我别出心裁的观点,而且在工作中个人的发展受到鼓励与夸奖。
7、不要要求我经常在大群人面前介绍我的工作,或者在我的工作还没有完成至我满意之前让我与大家分享。
8、运我帮助别人成长、发展以及实现他们所有的潜能。
9、我的工作包括理解别人以及发掘他们行为的动机,允许我发展与别人一对一的深厚关系。
10、允许我为实现我的理想而工作,且工作上不要受到政治的、经济的或别的方面的障碍的限制。

适合的领域有:创作性、艺术类 教育、研究、咨询
创造性职业/艺术
· 艺术家
· 作家:诗人/小说家
· 记者
· 娱乐人士
· 建筑师
· 演员
· 编辑
· 音乐家
· 信息制图设计师
· 编辑/艺术指导(杂志)

教育/咨询职业
· 大学教授:人文/艺术 ·调研员 ·心理学家
· 顾问 ·社会工作者 ·图书管理员
. 教育顾问 ·特殊教育老师 ·双语种教育老师
. 儿童早期教育老师 ·雇员帮助顾问 ·儿童福利顾问
· 酒精和毒品禁戒顾问 ·翻译/口译 ·法律调停人
· 社会工作者(老年人和儿童日常护理问题)

宗教职业
· 牧师 ·宗教教育工作者 ·传教士 ·教堂工作人员

医疗保健
· 饮食学家/营养学家 ·理疗医生 ·家庭健康社会工作者
· 职业治疗医生 ·按摩专家 ·全面健康医生
· 语言病理学家/听觉病理学家
保健领域吸引INFP型人的方面在于,它能够让他们对客户或病人进行亲切而亲密的工作

机构发展
· 雇员发展专家 ·人力资源开发 ·社会科学家
· 多样化管理人 ·顾问:工作组构建/冲突解决
尽管INFP型人通常不会对商业领域的工作感到满意,仍然有一些筛选出来的领域有可能让INFP型人获得成功和满足感。

潜在缺陷
由于追求完美主义,可能会拖延工作任务;
同时取悦于太多的人;
固执地不按照逻辑和事实调整自己的看法;
花费太多的时间反复琢磨而不采取行动。

适合的工作环境
关注他人价值的、和蔼可亲并讲信用的同事;
合作气氛;
考虑个人的隐私权;
灵活;
不官僚;
安定而平静;
给予反思的时间和空间。

运用你的能力非常容易,你成功的秘诀在于:
设定切合实际的期望值;
重视让步;
不要太主观地看待问题。

发 展 建 议:
需要学会现实地工作而不光是追求完美;
需要发展其坚韧、讲究实际和说“不”的自觉行动;
需要更加强调和重视事实和逻辑;
需要发展和实施行动计划。

悲剧不悲剧在于天

主讲人一直在强调的所谓悲剧,其实不过是指INFP类型的人在职场初期容易遇到困难,特别是在执行和坚持等方面。但是,这并不算多么严重的后果,顶多就是前面多一些磕磕绊绊而已。经过前几年的积累和磨合,INFP们也完全可以至少做到跟别的性格类型没有多大差别的执行结果,这是因为,我们接受能力非常快,也完全知道应该怎么执行,只不过就是缺少练习的耐心罢了,多点耐心就什么都有了。一般五年过去之后,INFP经过了职场的最初阶段,其性格中闪光的部分就会越来越强,之后就会越来越顺利。所以,所谓的悲剧,只不过是提醒我们要让自己更为坚持,少想多做而已。这样看来,也根本不是什么悲剧了。要知道,当初级阶段过去之后,许多类型也就不过如此了,反而是我们,会越来越在精神和智慧的方面,展示出我们的力量。

所以,我们这个类型,正像主讲人提到的,非常固执,不容易改变。但是,我们的改变,都是自己由心而发的,是自己摸索和思考、吸取外界宝贵经验而逐渐量变到质变的。这正是一种坚持,是可贵的。只要我们坚持自我,保持自由的思考和通达的态度,年龄的增长和阅历的增加,就会让我们如虎添翼。

看看那些INFP的名人们吧,他们都是成功者,不是因为有多少钱,而是因为实现了理想主义者内心最深处的价值。

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